I’ll be honest, the fear of loneliness was something I was really worried about prior to moving out on my own. I really enjoy being by myself. In fact, sometimes I feel like I need to recharge alone after I’ve been super busy or around a lot of people, but I’d be lying if I said that I don’t ever feel lonely. I feel lonely a lot, and I don’t think it’s a feeling that will ever go away.
Loneliness is a natural byproduct of living alone. But there are ways to combat it. Here are my tips for reducing the feeling of loneliness when you live by yourself.
Use white/background noise
I’m one of those people that if I hear any odd or unfamiliar noises, I immediately start to panic; my heart races. Before I moved out, I needed complete silence when I slept. Now, I like having a fan or my AC unit on. It somehow makes me feel less alone to have some white noise.
I also like having my TV on even if I’m not watching it. It’s great to have on while I’m cleaning or getting ready in the mornings. I’m the queen of playing Bravo reruns.
I really enjoy taking walks around my neighborhood just to get out and feel like I’m around other people. The gym is also a great place to go when you need to feel less isolated. Even if I’m not talking to anyone, I feel like getting out and about really helps. My barre studio is right down the street from where I live now, so I like that I can go take a class when I feel like I need to be around other people. Doesn’t hurt to break a sweat either!
This is simple, but don’t sit in your apartment and mope! Get out and do stuff with people. Make plans with friends. If you’re out doing things with others, it’ll be much easier to come back to your space alone. If you’re like me, you’ll like that little bit of alone time.
I also find that the weekdays are busier for me. I’m at work for 8+ hours, so I’m around people all day. Coming home at night is a little easier on the weekdays because I’m really only by myself for a few hours before bed. On the weekends, I have to make more of an effort to have plans. If you work from home, definitely make this more of a priority for yourself. You don’t want to get in the habit of being alone all the time.
If you live alone and have your own ideas to combat loneliness, then please tell me your secrets!
To end on a lighthearted note, if you have any secrets for zipping up dresses, putting on jewelry, etc., and the silly things you never think you’ll struggle with until you live alone, please tell me haha! I went to a wedding the other weekend and had to get someone to zip up my dress when I got there. Whoops!