A Reminder to Focus on What You Can Control

On Monday night, I was getting ready to post something to Instagram, going through the motions of editing. A little contrast here, a little brightness there, you get the idea. After probably spending at least a half an hour editing a post, I stopped and thought to myself, “What am I doing?”

Before I knew it, I had three different versions of the same picture saved as a draft on Instagram. What made it even crazier? They really didn’t look that different.

Digital Age: Control What You Can

I immediately put my phone down.

As a blogger, you have to have a social presence, and to be honest, it’s hard. Sure, you may be reading this thinking that I choose to put pretty content out there, and it’s true. I do. And I love it. But don’t think for one second that what I don’t feel absolutely weird every time I post a picture of myself. I think Dana’s post explains exactly how we all feel (non-bloggers included), pretty perfectly.

No matter how much we choose to put ourselves out there, we are all vulnerable. We all feel the pressure to be perfect.

That Freakin Instagram Algorithm

Let me explain.

While it might seem trivial, the Instagram algorithm has been a reminder that I cannot control everything. No matter how many times I edit a photo, it’s really not going to make a difference. With the Instagram algorithm, there’s even more pressure to get noticed…because there’s no control over whether or not your content will be seen! I swear there’s not a day where I don’t see someone talking about this freakin algorithm. And I get it. Blogging is all about visual content, and Instagram is a visual platform.

Okay, But What’s Your Point?

But here’s what we have to remember. Whether it’s social media or something else, we can only control what we can control. Relative to blogging, apopofpink.com is the only space that is really mine; the only space where I decide what goes.

There are other things in my life that I can’t control. For example, despite my need to be liked, I can’t control the fact that some people aren’t going to like me or understand me. What I can control? How I react to the fact that I won’t be liked. That’s all up to me.

While this whole Instagram thing may seem like a trivial example, the message is behind it is anything but. In the digital age, there’s a lot out there that we can’t control, so maybe it’s all about focusing on what we can control in our offline life.

If you’ve made it to the end of this post, bless your heart. I hope my ramble made sense, and maybe even reminded you today that not everything in life goes according plan, but that’s kind of the beauty in it.